Love is a beautiful thing when you are with your true love. I am pretty sure you read all the books, watched movies, went on seminars and more about relationship or marriage. However finding your Boaz is complex especially for us ladies. If you haven’t been pressured by relatives or friends, welcome to the club. I am not saying it is not good to be pressured but the point is do you know what you want. Yes I ask this question because sometimes you lose track on what you want instead you only go for what you see first. Take your time on finding your Boaz. I will give 7 charactericts to find your Boaz on a Christian perspective because I am a Christian. I want to share my experience maybe it works differently for others so I am not judging anyone. Feel free to ask questions or share it.
- Your Boaz is a man who loves God and respect his principles
The Bible says (Ruth 2:12): May the Lord repay you for what you have done. May you be richly rewarded by the Lord, the God of Israel, under whose wings you have come to take refuge.” In this verse, Ruth was well respected because on how the man was treating her. This man is a man who fear God and respect his commandments. These days you will find “man called Christian but do not practice his faith”. I have experienced that but another topic for another day. This means your Boaz is not a man who will manipulate you or put you in a complex situation. He is a man who will get closer to God everyday to win your love only through him not the other way. Your Boaz will treat you like a diamond becuae you are precious in his eyes. This means this man is a human being so will not be perfect in your eyes or may not be your type but check this out. Dont despite a man on what you see or heard.
- Boaz has a situation
The Bible says (Ruth 2:1):Now Naomi had a relative on her husband’s side, a man of standingfrom the clan of Elimelek, whose name was Boaz. Boaz won’t be a rich man but he is a worker or student. This doesn’t mean that this man won’t go through challenges like losing a job, searching for job, driven by his passion, responsible and many more. In marriage challenges will happen and we know money is an important source for couples so ladies whatever your man does, support him, pray for him, encourage him to each his true potential. I know it won’t be easy but you have to be determinated. Don’t look down a man every situation happening is temporary only a strong, driven woman can stand by his side. Even if your salary is higher than his, still give him the respect as a man. It is in his hard times that will determine your perseverance on him.
3.Boaz is an observator
The Bible says (Ruth 2:5): Boaz asked the overseer of his harvesters, “Who does that young woman belong to. Your Boaz is a man who does not talk much but observe a lot. Watch out how you conduct yourself because he is watching around even if you do not see him. He might have ask information about you. Ladies, be wise and act like a lady. Man, observe a lot especially if he wants to have informations about you. Watch out well!!!!
- Boaz is generous and has a good heart
The Bible says (Ruth 2:10-14):At this, she bowed down with her face to the ground. She asked him, “Why have I found such favor in your eyes that you notice me—a foreigner?” Boaz replied, “I’ve been told all about what you have done for your mother-in-law since the death of your husband—how you left your father and mother and your homeland and came to live with a people you did not know before. 12 May the Lord repay you for what you have done. May you be richly rewarded by the Lord, the God of Israel, under whose wings you have come to take refuge.”“May I continue to find favor in your eyes, my lord,” she said. “You have put me at ease by speaking kindly to your servant—though I do not have the standing of one of your servants.” At mealtime Boaz said to her, “Come over here. Have some bread and dip it in the wine vinegar.”
A man will admire for who you are not for your outfit or makeup. He will love your character,personality, hardwork, passion. I mean anything that he appreciates about you because he will tell you face to face. Your Boaz will recognise what is good for him in his own eyes because God will direct him. If a man does not love you for who you are then do not waste your time. Your Boaz must admire first what is in you I mean the real you either makeup or not, just be yourself and you will favour before him. You do not need to work hard to win him it will come naturally if he has genious attention toward you. I mean you will know when you find the right one, you won’t do the whole job it will come easily only if you abide to God not the judgment of others or family. Sometimes, a man willnot come the way you want meaning he wont be perfect. If you have 5 characterics in a man maybe God will send you 1 or 2 out 5 which the rest is you who have to work on that to make him your taste.
- Boaz looks at distinct woman
The Bible says (Ruth3:10): The Lord bless you, my daughter,” he replied. “This kindness is greater than that which you showed earlier: You have not run after the younger men, whether rich or poor. Your Boaz is only attracted by a woman who can make the differnce among his peers. This doesn’t mean wear the latest outfit, looking thin just being a normal woman who has class, secure, confident, generous, pleasant, obedient, loving, caring and many more. Just be yourself and do not be rude. Have pleasant word to encourage him and others. Sometimes we forget that a man always does his best to excel so be patient.
- Boaz is keep his word
The Bible says (Ruth 3:12-13):Although it is true that I am a guardian-redeemer of our family, there is another who is more closely related than I. Stay here for the night, and in the morning if he wants to do his duty as your guardian-redeemer, good; let him redeem you. But if he is not willing, as surely as the Lord lives I will do it. Lie here until morning.
Your Boaz will not waste time because his intention will be known quick. You will know yourself but you need to pray to get confirmation like I said earlier don’t be quick to judge a man but be watchful and prayerful. I heard a lot they are not good men anymore, I used to say that but your Boaz is never far from you which you might have not notice him or you are looking somewhere else. While you are preparing for your Boaz, be prepared yourself. It is all about a decision of yourself and attitude toward a waiting time which will happen in God’s time. Love is beauthing thing when 2 souls are connected to each other. If he says he will marry you just believe him and pray for him to follow God’s standard. My own story will come later in one blog one day. Ladies, don’t be discouraged because of deception. All challenges you are going through is to make you strong and be prepared. I have been there before and I am glad I am not single and happy. If he loves you, he will do anything for you and only focus on you. He will be honest and open to you without hidding anything. He will do what is right for both of you. Just believe him.
- Boaz is a protector
The Bible says (Ruth 2:9):Watch the field where the men are harvesting, and follow along after the women. I have told the men not to lay a hand on you. And whenever you are thirsty, go and get a drink from the water jars the men have filled.
Do not be afraid of anything because he will be there for you even when you are sick. He will be a provider, defender, encourager, best friend I mean anything for you. He completes you. You will feel secure and yourself around him which you might have not experience with another man. If you are in relationship be happy where you are. If you are not, it is never too late to believe in love again.
Many years I tought I was in love but experiencing true love is another dimension which you will not struggle anymore because you find the right person.
I know it is a long post but it is worth to share it to anyone who is looking for true love.